the-compendium replied to your post: How can you say you aren’t a mother. It makes your “miscarriage” seem a bit odd. I’m not saying you’re a liar, but as someone who has miscarried it’s just weird that you are so nonchalant and wouldn’t even consider yourself a mother.
this is kind of how I feel about it too. I feel like I am a secret mother,I can’t say anything about it around most people for fear of confusion,people calling me out or being uncomfortable. It sucks to be a childless mother.
exactly. I hate that I’ve made my miscarriage come across as odd… That was never my intention at all. I just don’t want to confuse anyone. Whenever I talk to other people about it they never know what to say except “I’m sorry”, and then they continue on with whatever it was they were doing.
Also I’m an atheist so I do not believe my baby is waiting for me in Heaven or watching over me. S/he’s just gone and that’s all there is. I have this sonogram and that’s all. It’s hard to cope with that realization. I never know what to say when people tell me that we will be reunited someday. It just makes me feel worse I think.
